In today’s world, raising teenagers is a challenge for every parent. A set of children might be very obedient to their parents, and some might be completely opposite. Navigating through teenage can be tough, but as parents it is really important to help them grow into responsible and well-rounded adults. 

So now the question is how to handle them, as a parent of a teenager myself, I would like to share a few tips that I follow. I believe by following them both sides- teenagers and parentage- can sail this journey amicably. 

• Listen actively: Teens need to feel heard and understood. When they talk, give them your full attention and try to understand their perspective. Let teenagers express their thoughts and feelings without interrupting them. Show that you value their opinions and that you are interested in what they have to say. Allow them to make mistakes and learn from them. 
• Be open-minded: Try to see things from your teen’s point of view and avoid being judgmental or dismissive of their feelings and experiences.
• Respect their privacy: Give your teen some space and respect their privacy, but also establish clear boundaries and expectations for behavior. Treat them with the same respect you would expect from others. Avoid talking down to them or using a condescending tone.
• Stay calm: When discussing sensitive or difficult topics, try to stay calm and avoid getting angry or upset. This will make it easier for your teen to talk to you and be open and honest.
• Use “I” statements: Instead of blaming or accusing your teen, try using “I” statements to express your own thoughts and feelings. For example, instead of saying “You never listen to me,” say “I feel frustrated when we can’t seem to communicate effectively.”

• Avoid lecturing: Teens are more likely to tune out if they feel like they are being lectured. Instead, try having a conversation and asking questions to get them to think about their choices and actions. 
• Be supportive: Offer your teen support and encouragement and let them know that you believe in them and are there for them, even when they make mistakes. Listen to them: Let the teenager express their thoughts and feelings without interrupting them. Show that you value their opinions and that you are interested in what they have to say. 
• Avoid judgment: Try to understand their perspective and avoid making assumptions or passing judgment. Allow them to make mistakes and learn from them. 

Remember, every teenager is unique and what works for one may not work for another. The key is to be flexible, open-minded, and willing to adapt to your teen’s changing needs. 

Happy Parenting! 

Thoughts by 

Manmeet Wadhwa (HRT, Grade 1)