Society was experiencing a vast change due to a breakdown of joint family systems which were separating due to professional demands. This brought in a paucity of adult family members with spare time to take care of the children, thus started affecting the psychological and cultural growth of a child. This also had its detrimental effect on the parents’ minds but they had to focus on their career due to economic reasons or the urge to establish individually.
The women these days are no more carrying the same stereotypical image of a mother i.e., of a stay-at-home mom. With the increased education among women and the high costs of living, the role of the woman has changed to sharing the burden of providing for the family with her husband. On the flip side, in many families both parents are sharing the workload, supporting the family economically, as well as taking turns with the household chores and looking after the children. This had led to a gradual reverse in roles between men and women in today’s society.
Parents are aware of their child’s behavior and are searching ways to change it, but are unsure of where to start. This uncertainty leads then to getting stuck in a place of inaction and growing resentment that nothing is changing. Meanwhile, the child is experiencing the void in family life due to preoccupation of parents and absence of other adult family members. Moreover, the easy availability of various consumerist attractions (cell phone, internet, tablets, laptops) has a severe effect on child psychology.
This twenty-first-century phenomenon has to be tackled with a paradigm shift in parenting. The parents of today have to offer more empathetic mind and attention to the children. The teachers and parents have to ensure that the child uncovers his/her mind and feeling more to them. The child has to be offered the tenderness needed in their formative stage of life. Ancient rigidity has to give space to a friendly, flexible approach encased in the traditional value systems of the social system where the child is born.
Tips for parents of today:
1) Spend more quality time with your children individually every day
Parents need to take time out every day to catch up with their child on their day’s activities. This creates a sense of accomplishment in the child’s mind, as they narrate their activities of the day.
2) Be present during critical moments of the day
When they leave to school or when they come back from school, these are crucial moments in a child’s day, where they experience a fear of moving away from you and excitement when they see you. So, working parents can manage their times to ensure either one of them can be there during these crucial moments in a day.
3) Plan your weekend with your child
Make sure to plan exciting outdoor activities with your child on the weekends. It is important that parents plan activities that engage the child physically rather than keeping them glued to technological devices.
4) Be really there for them when with them
It is not just important to make time for your child but also important to be mentally present with them. This involves giving them un-divided attention and having an active dialogue with them.
5) Don’t pack their day
Parents tend to pack their child’s day after school with activities, tuitions and extra classes. This packed schedule leaves the child with very little time to visualize, explore, wonder and be creative. The traits are highly critical in the overall development of the child. Hence , always leave them with enough free time to explore their interests.